This coming Fall will mark two years that I have brought you Sun-day designs. As my own life and career transforms, my company and coaching practice evolves too. In the past year I've taken on a bigger role at work, I am pursuing the next level of coaching certification, supporting my son's college pursuits and creating time and space for love and living. Yes living. I have decided that I crave more learning, more experience, more fun. I am diving into the dreams I created at the Design Your Year Event with even more fervor. To accomplish my personal goal of living more fully as a coach, as a mom and as a loving partner I have to shift some priorities in my life. I have committed to infusing your inbox with positive energy and the way in which that happens will change starting right now. Sun-day designs will shift from weekly to the first Sun-day of the month posts to ensure you have the best and most heartfelt content and life design tools, as I add the role of student back to my docket. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to consider what change do you crave in your life. What areas of your life are on auto-pilot, where you're just OKAY, things are sustainable bit not fully thriving in exciting and enriching ways? You're taking the steps, going the motions, you see the results on some level but your heart is just not in it. Or maybe you love the key ares of your life, but can bigger and better in one target area if you simply recalibrate your approach in the others. Instead of journaling or reflecting this question on your own I want you to find a friend to explore this question with more deeply. When you ask your friend the question "what change do you crave in your life" be a mirror as that person shares his/her answer(s). Repeat the list of changes the other person is craving and for each comment, ask "if that change doesn't come now what will happen to you?" If the answer to the second question is nothing will happen, then it's not a change that they deeply desired, and it's your job as a friend is to push them further. Help them find the change that will have the greatest impact. Now switch roles, your friend will now help you dive into the depths of your heart. You will know you're on track because the change you crave will be charged with a clear sense of urgency. Shifting to monthly Sun-day design posts will allow me to pour that love into other Design You Coaching experiences and events. More information on that golden nugget coming soon...
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Perfectionism gets a bad rap! As an evolving perfectionist I know firsthand the benefits in the pursuit of perfection as well as the real risk of not appreciating the scenery because you're so fixated on one ideal spot. There is a distinct difference between obsessing about details and an authentic commitment to quality. You invest so much time in "work" whether for your own business or your employer's, of course you want to feel proud of what you produce. Well getting to that place of pride takes effort. It would be like saying you don't mind hitting the gym 3 hours, five days a week only to have to the same weight or physique. That would be ludicrous and pretending you don't want to be perfect at anything is just as silly. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to find the plus side of perfection by redefining what perfection means for you. Think of something in your life that you love and strive to be an expert in. This is very often your career, favorite hobby, or unique talent or gift you have. It my also be a significant role you play as a partner, partner or colleague. area of life you want to not only want improve. Based on where you are now what would make this week perfect in that area for you? For example, what would perfection look like for you as you build your career? One of my favorite inspirations is Shaun T, even as a top fitness expert he is always define what perfection means to him, and as a result pushing his business and his body further. Let's look at an area I'm working on - being a great mother. What makes a perfect mother? Well when I ask my son he wants a mother is supportive, compassionate, loving and kind. The great thing is these same qualities will help me become an even better coach. The pursuit of perfection has its benefits. When you work to perfect your thinking, your words or your craft you inevitably invest in designing you. Even if the bar is obscurely set beyond reach the journey nonetheless can make you a better pilot navigating through your beautiful life. So for which are of life are you redefining perfection - money, relationships, career? Leave a post and share your path to perfection. Imagine a career that's bigger, better and richer than the one you're in right now. A career where you are appreciated, well compensated, learn, grow and have fun with the people you work with. The type of career people read about in Forbes magazine and often wonder why not you. Truth is it can be you, the key is to define success beyond any single job or career path. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to create your career bucket list. Build your career dream that infuses the full range of your talents, strengths, interests and capabilities. First, write your very own career wish list. Capture everything you want to do, see and experience over your lifetime. Here are few ideas to jump start your thinking - write a book about your life story, build your own company, teach women's wellness classes, accept a job overseas where you have to learn a new language, be sure to also include the philanthropic work you want to do, your global impact and reach. List at least 10 different careers. My own top 5 are entrepreneur, dancer, executive, author, and life coach - of course! Other ideas to consider - pilot, athlete, orator, painter, doctor, lawyer, talent agent, singer, chef, masseuse...I can go on. Share your list with some friends. They can offer great insights as to career and/or contributions you can give to people in the world. Now for each experience you have listed, pick the one that you just have to do. The one you want the world to still talk about when you're no longer here. Okay, got it. Next, think of one thing you can do toward that goal this year. If it's writing your book commit to an outline or the first three chapters. Last step is to do it this week! Yikes, say what?? Yes, you can write those chapters this week, it's been stirrings in your head and heart for years. Want to go global, well there are global centers, programs and outreach in every major U.S. City. If that's not feasible the global community is online too. One small step on the career journey you love is achievable in the span of one week. You are ready, start that kick starter or go fund me project. Leave a comment and share your career bucket list story too. Whether you were able to join the Design Your Year Event last December in body or in spirit it's time for your raw and real report card. This week is dedicated to your very own authentic Design Your Year check-in. For one short hour press pause, give thanks for what you've accomplished, be honest about the things you've failed at or flaked on and gear up for more! Like the leader of the free world in your first 100 days of office, give your progress an actual grade. Here 's a quick guide to your grading system: A for effort and tangible success in 3-5 areas of life, B for effort and a huge shift in your mindset, C for giving a lot of thought and possibly some tears, D for your forgot all about it until right now. YIKES! And no + or -, the grade stands as it is. Once you've established an accurate grade you use it to decide if the dreams you desired for 2015 just a short three months ago still stand true. Shake up your goals, revise your vision board, or begin some journal exercises to figure out why that one thing still has taken off. Consider this your first foray toward spring cleaner. Before you start with your closets take inventory of what you feel, the beliefs that are still pulling you away from your dreams, and figure out what you really need and who can truly help (and I know Design You Coaching is just the right resource for you)! As you ponder all the possibility for your life take the reigns, stay the course or pick a new promise. Visit the the gallery (with captions) from Design Your Your Event posted below. Be inspired. Believe in magic. There is no single word in the English language that fully encapsulates the meaning of dharma. The perspective of dharma I want you to seek this week is to realize your dharma or "right way of living". I'm not suggesting there is one right way of living for all, there a way of living your life that feels right to you. This is the dharma you get to design, and figuring out the right way of living is just one part of the process. The second and most essential step is knowing what to do when your plan goes awry and that right way of living seems impossible to live up to. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to design your dharma by making sure your plan includes your Plan B. How do you design your dharma? You know my answer: Dream. Discover. Design. Love your dream, be clear about your desire. Discover who you are in that dream and the traps you set up for yourself and design your plan around them. You have to your resiliency map at-hand. That's right! To maintain your dharma - your truth - you need to have a Plan B. Plan A is already posted on your vision board. It's in the list of goals you wrote out for the year a few weeks ago. Plan B is for the moments of stress, storms, distractions or your downright stubbornness that convinces you give in and give up. Plan B stands for Plan to B ON IT! Your plan B should be like the app on your phone ready at your fingertips. Examine your dreams and goals and ask your self, are these the right aspirations for me? And if the answer is yes, take the next step to create that Plan B. What will you do when the path to your dream seems plagued with setbacks. Inspire others with your Plan B On It in the comments below. |
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