I often say my son saved my life. I was born into this world focused on my academic and professional career, even as a child I was leading teams, championing women's rights on the playground and unafraid to share my voice that true to form went against the grain. I knew I was ready to change to world, what I didn't know was there are people who are here to change me and shape my life. That fire inside that's ready to protest for the right cause works in the professional or political space, not so much in the areas of relationships and love. As much as I gave my son life he gave me life too. To this day he is still the one who disrupts my world, my heart and my thinking working real magic that saves me from letting myself in my own fiery spirit.
While I have friends and mentors that serve the role of the unabashed disruptors in my life, what's really interesting is that I also have people whom I would not call friend or enemy per se, but who nonetheless grate on my nerves because they push me out of my comfort zone. In this edition of Sun-day Design I want you to find the people who will save you from yourself and push you on your path.
You like everyone else on this planet, get stuck in our own life story, naming all the reasons you didn't get that job, that home, that date, was because of someone else. In your mind you believe you have done everything in our power to achieve your goals and then work to convince yourself that any action you didn't take toward achieving that goal wasn't really important or something else mattered more. A great example is dieting. How often do you set a target weight or physical goal only to have "something else" come up and derail your plan? Longer work hours, no access to a convenient gym, not having a personal trainer, or not enough money to buy healthy organic foods are top reason for slacking on your dream body. Well it's not likely you will be able to shake yourself out of that self-sabotage thinking pattern, and this is the the time you need a hero. The irony is your savior may not be your ally or friend.
That person who comments about your ill fitted clothes, or asks you directly if you've gained weight will generate new thoughts and feelings inside, which is exactly what you need right now. Whether that person's words intentionally or unintentionally hurt you, the spark in your mind goes off and you're more likely to do something about it. This also plays out in your professional career. It's the person that asks you how long have you been in your role and why you haven't been promoted. It can also be that person who has nothing but strong words of criticism about the work you were proud of. That tinge of angst is a gift for you to look inside and see ways that person may be right. This person, is not a friend or an an enemy, (s)he is your disruptor here to call you to action. Be grateful and forgive their delivery method.
Now open your heart, disrupt your thinking, rewrite your story and claim your dreams.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.