This coming Fall will mark two years that I have brought you Sun-day designs. As my own life and career transforms, my company and coaching practice evolves too. In the past year I've taken on a bigger role at work, I am pursuing the next level of coaching certification, supporting my son's college pursuits and creating time and space for love and living. Yes living. I have decided that I crave more learning, more experience, more fun. I am diving into the dreams I created at the Design Your Year Event with even more fervor. To accomplish my personal goal of living more fully as a coach, as a mom and as a loving partner I have to shift some priorities in my life. I have committed to infusing your inbox with positive energy and the way in which that happens will change starting right now. Sun-day designs will shift from weekly to the first Sun-day of the month posts to ensure you have the best and most heartfelt content and life design tools, as I add the role of student back to my docket.
In this week's Sun-day design I want you to consider what change do you crave in your life. What areas of your life are on auto-pilot, where you're just OKAY, things are sustainable bit not fully thriving in exciting and enriching ways? You're taking the steps, going the motions, you see the results on some level but your heart is just not in it. Or maybe you love the key ares of your life, but can bigger and better in one target area if you simply recalibrate your approach in the others. Instead of journaling or reflecting this question on your own I want you to find a friend to explore this question with more deeply.
When you ask your friend the question "what change do you crave in your life" be a mirror as that person shares his/her answer(s). Repeat the list of changes the other person is craving and for each comment, ask "if that change doesn't come now what will happen to you?" If the answer to the second question is nothing will happen, then it's not a change that they deeply desired, and it's your job as a friend is to push them further. Help them find the change that will have the greatest impact. Now switch roles, your friend will now help you dive into the depths of your heart. You will know you're on track because the change you crave will be charged with a clear sense of urgency.
Shifting to monthly Sun-day design posts will allow me to pour that love into other Design You Coaching experiences and events. More information on that golden nugget coming soon...
When you think about your life, the people and experiences you've, had how many do you credit as part of your own doing? How many of these people or events seemingly came into your life without desire or invitation? What choice do you have in your job, your kids, where you live, or even what's in your heart. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to think about what do you really choose and draw into your life and consider what would happen if you believe you choose everything?
Think of the power you would feel right now if you really believed that everything and everyone in your life serves a key role in your personal growth and expansion. For example, on some level did you choose an emotionally unavailable partner because your spirit knew these type of relationships would make you more aware emotionally and receptive to love? When you think about choosing your partner, you know that is a active choice you make. You also make passive choices, simply by not choosing.
Even the act of avoidance; disregard or denial are still acts of choice. Belaboring over a decision is a choice to sit in the angst or pain a little longer. This delay may serve a greater purpose and may be a necessary part of your transformation. By choice or not, the pain promotes your expansion.
Holding a framework of choice does not detract from preordained destiny, unfortunate circumstances or direct authorship in writing your life story. Choice gives you the gears to fly your plane no matter the terrain outside. Look at your own life. Accept as fact that you chose your job. Since you chose and the people you meet there everyday, how would you interact with your colleagues in a space of appreciation because for all the good or all the bad they represent in your eyes they are here to help you grow. The same is true for relationships. Do you chose your lover or friend throughout time and space or appreciate your paths crossing if but for a season? There's no right or wrong answer. Your belief is yours to choose. Leave a comment and share what you're actively choosing for your life today.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.