Forget being stuck in a rut! It's just as easy to find yourself stuck in the standard. Comatose in the status quo, mulling through your days in a sub-par job, living with someone you don't really like (by the way, that person is you) and watching your inner light dim as you spend less and less time doing what you love. Well, sometimes you need to have a break-up to have a breakthrough and in this case the person you need to let go for a while is you.
In this week's Sun-day design I want you to stop pinning over your hum drum life and ignite your inspiration by donating your gifts to someone in need. When your creative juices are drained it's time for you to light the fire inside. Yes, I'm asking you to give in order to receive.
Share your talents with someone in need. This is more than donating money to a charity or spending time in a soup kitchen. Whatever your innate gift is you're here to give it to the world and receive compensation for it too. That reciprocity may be monetary, emotional, spiritual or physical rejuvenation. Here's an example, a few weeks ago I was feeling uninspired and less than enthusiastic about one of my other jobs. I felt creatively drained and found it difficult to come up with new products and ideas. To ignite my inspiration I stopped thinking about this work on focused on another area of life, namely my gifts and contributions as a life coach. That always excites me. I offered free coaching to a friend on her business model, and in focusing on her dreams and innovative ideas I became so engaged and captivated by what she was doing I couldn't help but to feel like, yes, I want some of that too! The ideas and concepts for my other job came flooding through.
You have many of your own talents and gifts to choose from. This week pick one, and give it away to someone who is pursuing their dreams too. Watch how the light in that person's eyes catches yours.
If you're interested in sharing your gifts with the Design You Coaching Community, leave a comment and share the gift you'd like to share here.
Sometimes life puts you in the front seat of an emotional roller coaster and in that moment you can choose to scream or have fun and enjoy the ride. Life - or rather the aspects of life for which it feels like you have no control - can twist and turn upside down, leaving you discombobulated so that nothing makes sense and the only thing you do know for sure is that life is changing BIG time. Taking a cue from the martial arts form Jujitsu, there is an art to responding to and shifting emotional energy in and through your life. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to practice emotions jujitsu gaining strength from the huge surges of energy that can accelerate or block your next big move in life.
In Jujitsu training and its sister martial art forms - Akido and Hapkido, power is gained in flexibility, endurance, and "ki", mental training. The use of whole-body movement is also accessed through yoga, Pilates, qigong, and tai-chi to name a few. And while I by no means claim to be a yogi or martial arts expert, I know and have seen the ways in which these practices enhance and empower real lives - myself, my son, and my clients...when they stay on top of their life commitments.
As you prepare for life's inevitable emotional roller coaster ride, select the jujitsu move you need to practice most. Pick one day and practice one move. If you choose to practice flexibility choose a day where you say YES to every request that comes your away. Of course if that request puts you at risk or in danger then be smart and say no. Anything else is fair game and will help you practice managing your emotions in the moment. If you choose endurance then choose to push yourself physically. Go for a 5k run, commit to 500 push ups, or show up for that fitness class you purchased a Groupon for months ago. Should you choose to build your "ki" then take on a new course. There are tons of one hour, few hours, full day courses for adults who want to learn, grow and master new professional skills.
Practicing emotions jujitsu will help you build the skills you need to navigate any emotionally havoc period in your. And remember the emotional journey you experience can be challenging, exciting, fearful and fun all at the same time. Emotions can run high during difficult times and also when good things come into your life. When you accept a new job, come into an unexpected inheritance, propose to your partner or give birth to your baby or business. Leave a post and share your jujitsu move for the week.
What do you do when you've been told news that impacts your life in a way you weren't quite prepared for? I mean huge earth shattering news like your partner has cheated on you, your kid is dropping out of school, your manager wants you gone, or your body is aging in new and alarming ways. And now you question everything - who you are, what you believe, and the purpose you have in this world. That's okay. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to look for the deliverance after diagnosis. Once you're aware of this news, a decision can be made more clearly by you or others. You can finally take the first step in moving on, and that means moving up. The greatest gift is knowing - getting clear on where you stand creates your path to personal salvation.
Here's an example. I have a new leadership in my other job that has made it clear in so many spoken and unspoken words - what they value and devalue in my work. This is a gift as I can mindfully choose the ways in which I continue to evlove my career. Understanding my career diagnosis gives me freedom from wasted hours pining over incomplete information or false assumptions. I know my allies and can re-evaluate my approach to my short and long-term career goals. Validating my path feels good and powerful. There is grace and perspective to be gained which are the seeds to deliverance, and peace.
This framework is also true when you receive a medical prognosis you aren't quite prepared for. I call that experience PDSD for "Post Diagnosis Stress Disorder". It's similar to the sort of grief-to action- orientation you go through when you grieve significant loss in your life. Take a look at my post on SpaFinder Wellness website for guidance on working your way through news of a medical dilemma too.
Many of us benefit from the mothering of a woman other than or in addition to our own mother. This is the female figure in your life who consults, consoles, and nourishes your spirit and strengthens your emotional well-being. This wonderful woman may be a sister-friend, a co-worker, a church or community leader, or someone you quietly admire and seek guidance every now and then.
This mother's day I want you to express your love and gratitude to the many women who mother and comfort you in your life. Give the special gift or tribute you have planned for your own mother and also offer a token on appreciation for the magic in mothering you experience from the other "mothers" who influence your life. This mother may be the one who:
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.