Mercury is in retrograde wreaking havoc again on the weather (certainly in NYC and California) and probably causing unanticipated windstorms in your life too. The Farmer's Almanac says Mercury's retrograde periods can cause our plans to go awry. So just as thought you were easy riding the waves of life rugged waters are forcing you to change course in HUGE ways. I’ve got the perfect “surfboard” to help you ride that wave like a pro!
A tool many business leaders use called SARAH can also be your surfboard for riding the wave of change. "S.A.R.A.H." stands for: Shock, Anger, Rejection, Acceptance, and Hope. It's also used to describe the grief cycle and quite frankly when things change in our lives we grieve it. Whether the change is good or bad doesn't matter, you feel the loss. You miss your loved ones, you're angry at your spouse, or upset that your finances are once again in the red. The first step in dealing with any change is to acknowledge the full spectrum of emotions you're experiencing - joy, anger, pain, frustration, excitement, panic, or fear. Ride the waves of change with SARAH by figuring out which emotions you feel and begin to use those feelings as a source of power.
Turn your pain into power by asking yourself:
o Why am I surprised? What signs did I turn a blind eye to?
o Why am I angry? What about the change makes me sad? Did someone do or say something that hurt my feelings?
o In what ways am I trying to find a work-around and not go along with the change?
o What do I need to feel, hear, or say in order to embrace even some aspect of this change?
o Now that I’ve found some element of the change that is good, how can I leverage it for even more positive outcomes?
Once you get clear on how you feel then you can create a flexible plan of action. Call out what's most important to you and what you're wiling to offer others during this transition. I’ve hung on to my surfboard SARAH riding the many waves of change just this week. I'm working through ending some relationships while remaining open and excited about new ones. In this transition I've been in shock, anger and hope. I am focused my intent to listen to others more than sharing my own option in an effort to gauge and honor their own change wave and subsequent emotions. This is my way, you will ride chop waves of change with your own style. Grab you surfboard - carve, fade, and hang-ten too!
We're heading into March which signifies the change in season - at least we hope so here in NYC! This is a time of change, growth, and new possibilities. It's also the perfect time to examine where you are in buidling a life of your dreams, discovering who you are and designing each day to your heart's desire? It's never too late to move toward your dreams. I'm taking stock, revising and recommitting to my dreams. How about you? Where are you stuck? Where are you soaring?
I’ve got some awesome news to share – whether you know it or not, you are the CEO of your life. Oh your business card may not read “Chief Executive Officer” but there's on doubt you have the same access to inner power and prowess as any company executive. And like any CEO you are ultimately accountable and responsible for what you do and experience in this life.
In my coaching practice I encourage clients to go for the corner office in every area of their life. It’s up to you to design what your corner office will look and feel like. For some their space is decked out with the latest tech gadgets and for others it displays mementoes from travels around the world.
So what does it take to get or create that corner office in your life? To experience the joy and pride as you take in the view from achieving great heights. It takes heart. I don’t simply mean it requires effort, tenacity, and drive. While that is all true having the corner office or for many, your dream career, love life, or solid financial portfolio it also takes insight and passion for who you are and the very things that you truly desire. The key to the corner office is your I.P.
You have to do the work to gain clarity and Insight so that you know who you are what it is that you want. Quiet the noise and expectations of others and decide how you want to lead your life. No better person to help you gain insight on who you are and define your dreams than Design You Coaching. Of course you also have to have Passion for what it is you’re pursuing. There’s nothing worse than churning your wheels wasting precious time and energy on something you don’t really want. Like any great CEO you have to make sure you’ve got a lock on your I.P. (Insight + Passion).
Now define your I.P. and go get your corner office!
This is week marks another Valentine's Day Celebration and since this is a BRAVE new year I want you to show your love in new and different ways, to new and different people. Of course you can share a dinner date, movie, or box of chocolates with your loved ones and they will appreciate it because it's from you. In the year of the BRAVE you have to go one step better. Give your loved ones a gift that speaks to their heart, that shows you not only care but that you get them, you know who they really are and you connect with their truest self. Just as you want to be appreciated and feel validated for who you are giving that same regard to others is greater than any gift you can buy.
Some of the best gifts I've received over the years that spoke to my mind and my heart. One was my favorite necklace from Satya Jewelry as it bears symbols that represent peace and communication – now who don’t need to call more of that in their life! Satya Jewelry creates a range of pieces that are designed to inspire courage, adventure and spirituality. Another of my favorite gifts was a book my best friend gave me called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The book and associated website is all about helping you understand the ways in which you experience love as well as understand how the expression of love is different for each person. I must tell you I have no direct relationship with Satya Jewelry or Gary Chapman I simply want to share with you examples of the most meaning heartfelt gives I’ve been given at Valentine’s Day and other holidays.
The book The 5 Love Languages and website is a great tool to learn how to connect and show expressions of love and connection in any relationship. I often talk about expression love at work. At its core, love is about connection, communication, and compassion, and I'm sure you want these things even in your work relationships.
So this Valentine's Day, think of ways in which you convey your love to others in a way that speaks to them. Share your gift of connection and compassion with a colleague or two too.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.