Mercury is in retrograde wreaking havoc again on the weather (certainly in NYC and California) and probably causing unanticipated windstorms in your life too. The Farmer's Almanac says Mercury's retrograde periods can cause our plans to go awry. So just as thought you were easy riding the waves of life rugged waters are forcing you to change course in HUGE ways. I’ve got the perfect “surfboard” to help you ride that wave like a pro!
A tool many business leaders use called SARAH can also be your surfboard for riding the wave of change. "S.A.R.A.H." stands for: Shock, Anger, Rejection, Acceptance, and Hope. It's also used to describe the grief cycle and quite frankly when things change in our lives we grieve it. Whether the change is good or bad doesn't matter, you feel the loss. You miss your loved ones, you're angry at your spouse, or upset that your finances are once again in the red. The first step in dealing with any change is to acknowledge the full spectrum of emotions you're experiencing - joy, anger, pain, frustration, excitement, panic, or fear. Ride the waves of change with SARAH by figuring out which emotions you feel and begin to use those feelings as a source of power.
Turn your pain into power by asking yourself:
o Why am I surprised? What signs did I turn a blind eye to?
o Why am I angry? What about the change makes me sad? Did someone do or say something that hurt my feelings?
o In what ways am I trying to find a work-around and not go along with the change?
o What do I need to feel, hear, or say in order to embrace even some aspect of this change?
o Now that I’ve found some element of the change that is good, how can I leverage it for even more positive outcomes?
Once you get clear on how you feel then you can create a flexible plan of action. Call out what's most important to you and what you're wiling to offer others during this transition. I’ve hung on to my surfboard SARAH riding the many waves of change just this week. I'm working through ending some relationships while remaining open and excited about new ones. In this transition I've been in shock, anger and hope. I am focused my intent to listen to others more than sharing my own option in an effort to gauge and honor their own change wave and subsequent emotions. This is my way, you will ride chop waves of change with your own style. Grab you surfboard - carve, fade, and hang-ten too!
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.