Last week one of my best friends showed me exactly why she is one of the loves of my life. I'm not talking about a romantic love, I'm referring to the thick and thin, we break up and make up people who, as the "kids" today say - get your life! These people may only be in your life for one season. You may not speak to them for months or even years but when you call they answer without a second thought.
In this week's Sun-day design I want to know who's your top 5, the people who speak light and demonstrate truth, love, and compassion in your life. Quite honestly, even your BFF's or hang-out buddies may not make this list. Your top 5 list should include the people who inspire you in your career, the person whose marriage you admire and aspire to create in your own partnership, or the millionaire next door. That person who has mastery over his or her finances creating long-term wealth on a salary that's less than yours - how about that! Your top 5 may eventually include your frenemy, the last person who you would think would be in your corner and takes you off guard one day with an unanticipated kind word of encouragement. A new and profound relationship blossoms from there.
When you think about your top 5, think about the people you know to call for inspiration and for guidance. You may not ask this person directly for help, you just simply find yourself navigating toward that person's presence because simply being in their space energizes and revitalizes you. The best test to identify your top 5 is to think of a passion or project you have in mind. One you haven't started yet. It may be a new business, a new relationships, a new fitness plan to get your body and mind back on track. Whatever that venture is, think of 5 people who can help you move that dream forward. Beyond making a financial contribution, think of the people who will tell you the truth about your idea and not just what you want to hear. Think of the person who will call you on your 85% effort that you're pretending is a full 100%. Or how about the person who is doing exactly what you see yourself doing, and you're just now on the come-up. These are the characteristics of the people who should be on your top 5.
Your top 5 may include people you don't speak to often or someone you speak with every day. The person you don't enjoy being around but pushes you do show up in life better than you have may be one of your top 5 too. That person doesn't discount or take away from the other important people in your life. Some friends and family support and offer love in a meaningful way. Your top 5 will push you for more.
Be sure to leave a comment and share your top 5 list too!
What's your default disposition when there's trouble in paradise? In the heat of the moment is your reaction to negotiate and fight for your best interest, settle for what's given or heatedly walk away? Most people unconsciously fall into one of these categories, and each style has real purpose and value for navigating different roadblocks in life. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to recognize how often do you negotiate, settle or walk away from difficult people or difficult conversations.
To identify your dominant defensive style think about every point of contention you experienced in the last week - the ones you verbalized and the incidents where you quietly simmered and you kept to yourself. Write your list and identify the style you used to deal with each situation. Tally your results, then go deeper and think about how that particular style shows up in you. Let's take a look at a few examples that resonate with each style:
I'm admittedly a work-in-progress Negotiator learning to adopt the Settlers approach in welcoming other people's point of view and accepting their thoughts and feelings as their own approach to self-advocacy.
So what's your style? Leave a post and share your default style and lessons you've learned.
How often do you think to yourself that if you had the opportunity to choose and decide the course of action for your life you would be so much better off? A day doesn't go by that you don't think that once you're in a position to choose your new career, home, where you vacation or even the people in your life you would be so happy. You have the opportunity to choose everything in your life - or certainly your reaction to what you experience and are presented with everyday, whatever position you currently find yourself in.
In this week's Sun-day design I want you to calculate the real price of freedom and determine the time and resources you need in order to direct key areas of life the way you desire.
When you embrace your freedom to choose the career you love, the partner that pushes you beyond your comfort zone, or the financial standing that keep you thriving for more, you inevitably accept the responsibility that comes with it. The moment you choose the life an entrepreneur you are deciding to invest your money, time, talent, energy, expertise in something I hope you love, or certainly will profit from financially. The investment in channeling your personal resources into your business means less time for friends, money for extraneous things, fewer social excursions, and less social media views. The price you pay for your business is real and personally taxing. You have to believe it's worth it to continue.
It's your turn. What's the price you pay to develop the business of your dreams, to raise a family, to live in the house you call your home, to date, to love, to be the best you that you know how to be? Consider the hours, money, brain-power, heartache, and love you pour in. Appreciate the ingredients to success. Share your story and all the ways you've invested in your dreams.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.