What's your default disposition when there's trouble in paradise? In the heat of the moment is your reaction to negotiate and fight for your best interest, settle for what's given or heatedly walk away? Most people unconsciously fall into one of these categories, and each style has real purpose and value for navigating different roadblocks in life. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to recognize how often do you negotiate, settle or walk away from difficult people or difficult conversations.
To identify your dominant defensive style think about every point of contention you experienced in the last week - the ones you verbalized and the incidents where you quietly simmered and you kept to yourself. Write your list and identify the style you used to deal with each situation. Tally your results, then go deeper and think about how that particular style shows up in you. Let's take a look at a few examples that resonate with each style:
I'm admittedly a work-in-progress Negotiator learning to adopt the Settlers approach in welcoming other people's point of view and accepting their thoughts and feelings as their own approach to self-advocacy.
So what's your style? Leave a post and share your default style and lessons you've learned.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.