Welcome to a special edition of Sun-day Design! I am so excited to share with you early access to the next Design Your Year Event event on Sunday, January 17, 2016, 2-6pm. In this unique coaching engagement you will experience life designing tools ranging from the spiritual to the every day practical to the show me data scientific. Whatever your style, preferences or desires you will gain tools to get clear on which goals matter most in 2016, sustain the energy you need to pursue your dreams past the New Year's slump, and clear out the baggage and bad habits that keep you from being the person you want to be. What's special about this event is real talk and real tools for real people. Join other smart, proactive, ambitious people who are ready to attract more in their lives. This year's event will help you recharge your career and work-life so that you can create more love, joy, and success in the areas of your life that matter most. Use the COUPON CODE: DesignWithFriends tor receive 10% off when you buy two or more tickets. Click here to secure your seat and a bonus holiday gift now.
Last year's participants experienced new love, new businesses, improved their financial standing and identified the areas of their life where they are still feeling drained and stuck. In case you're wondering here is what a few people shared they loved most:
Tanea inspires me to take control and lead my life.
Tanea helps me fulfilling my greatest potential.
This event help me open myself up and call my dreams into my life.
I could see things in my life that require immediate attention.
Let's create new possibilities in your world too!
When you end a relationship with someone even when you wanted to end and did so on your terms, there is still a small part of you that is broken by the the very breakup you initiated. Severing ties with a partner, a friend, a home, or even a job behind can leave you feeling sad about the decision, nervous about what lays ahead because it can be worse than what you departed with, and sense of void because a part of you is gone.
In this edition of Sunday design I want you to actually plan your breakup to breakdown (in order) to breakthrough. Let's begin with where to breakup. What person or thing in your life do you need to step away from? If it's your job, for example, what is your plan to exit while maintaining a good rapport with your soon to be ex-coworkers. If you're planning to breakup a relationship, how will you maintain your personal integrity during heating conversation where each party is speaking from a place of pain and not power. Take 10 minutes and literally write a script for how those conversations will transpire.
Next I want you to prepare for your breakdown. I know you're strong and clear about why you want this breakup, however, you may have a moment of weakness where you convince yourself everything is not as bad as you thought and maybe you should stay put or go back. In those moments of stress and doubt you must have your fortifying tools ready at hand. Think about what will trigger you to go back to the very thing, place or relationship you decided to leave. For example, if you're deciding to leave your job or change your career, will your bank statement cause you to panic for lack of funds? You can prepare for that breakdown by mapping out secondary income sources. If you're preparing for the breakdown you may have after ending a relationship ready your resources for comfort from other people, take up a new hobby to meet someone else, or cherish the time you have with yourself.
The last phase is having faith that when you commit to the breakup and navigate your potential breakdown you will ultimately have a breakthrough. In this step you are reaffirmed that the breakup was indeed the best thing and you can name the lessons you learned. This may not seem like an actionable step, however, naming and claiming the ways in which you have been transformed by the breakup will help you replicate that freedom and power in other key area of your life. Clear out your house and get ready for the next Design Your Year event. More information coming soon...
Some people have a knack for finding the path of least resistance where many others feel their life is constantly bombarded with challenges, obstacles, convoluted roads and energy sucking hitchhikers. Have you asked yourself why is that the same roads often feel bumpy? Why can other people be on the same or similar road and have a completely different experience? To answer these questions think about what steps have you taken to clear the path other than painstakingly attempting to remove each piece of debris by your own hand?
For this month's Sun-day design it's time to reroute your GPS on the roads that are immersed with baggage and worries, and begin creating and choosing an easy path.
By now means am I suggesting you drop everything and walk away from your responsibilities. I'm am suggesting you look for or design an easier path to your challenges. One way is by not focusing or pouring all your energy and resources into battling those perceived obstacles. Get creative, jump over instead of busting through. The easy path may be the one you're on. You can walk that path with greater comfort and ease when you stop picking up the debris or holding on to past. Let the anger go. Another way to walk an easier path is to shift your focus from the potential danger that may be a hundred miles ahead, and focus on what is working right now. This future-focus trap tends to also be my own Achilles heel. The good news is life present me - and you - with lots of opportunities to practice.
Now back in school pursuing the next level of coaching certification I am reminded to stay focused on the present, and not create my own vortex of anxiety by paying to much attention to all the good and derailing possibilities in the future. I trust that if I stay present, living in the moment while still glancing for alignment toward the future I'll actually enjoy the path I'm on and gain more from this journey than I could have imagine. What are the easy paths you can choose to create in your life starting today?
How often do you think to yourself that if you had the opportunity to choose and decide the course of action for your life you would be so much better off? A day doesn't go by that you don't think that once you're in a position to choose your new career, home, where you vacation or even the people in your life you would be so happy. You have the opportunity to choose everything in your life - or certainly your reaction to what you experience and are presented with everyday, whatever position you currently find yourself in.
In this week's Sun-day design I want you to calculate the real price of freedom and determine the time and resources you need in order to direct key areas of life the way you desire.
When you embrace your freedom to choose the career you love, the partner that pushes you beyond your comfort zone, or the financial standing that keep you thriving for more, you inevitably accept the responsibility that comes with it. The moment you choose the life an entrepreneur you are deciding to invest your money, time, talent, energy, expertise in something I hope you love, or certainly will profit from financially. The investment in channeling your personal resources into your business means less time for friends, money for extraneous things, fewer social excursions, and less social media views. The price you pay for your business is real and personally taxing. You have to believe it's worth it to continue.
It's your turn. What's the price you pay to develop the business of your dreams, to raise a family, to live in the house you call your home, to date, to love, to be the best you that you know how to be? Consider the hours, money, brain-power, heartache, and love you pour in. Appreciate the ingredients to success. Share your story and all the ways you've invested in your dreams.
Whether you were able to join the Design Your Year Event last December in body or in spirit it's time for your raw and real report card. This week is dedicated to your very own authentic Design Your Year check-in. For one short hour press pause, give thanks for what you've accomplished, be honest about the things you've failed at or flaked on and gear up for more! Like the leader of the free world in your first 100 days of office, give your progress an actual grade. Here 's a quick guide to your grading system:
A for effort and tangible success in 3-5 areas of life, B for effort and a huge shift in your mindset, C for giving a lot of thought and possibly some tears, D for your forgot all about it until right now. YIKES! And no + or -, the grade stands as it is. Once you've established an accurate grade you use it to decide if the dreams you desired for 2015 just a short three months ago still stand true. Shake up your goals, revise your vision board, or begin some journal exercises to figure out why that one thing still has taken off.
Consider this your first foray toward spring cleaner. Before you start with your closets take inventory of what you feel, the beliefs that are still pulling you away from your dreams, and figure out what you really need and who can truly help (and I know Design You Coaching is just the right resource for you)! As you ponder all the possibility for your life take the reigns, stay the course or pick a new promise. Visit the the gallery (with captions) from Design Your Your Event posted below. Be inspired. Believe in magic.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.