Perfectionism gets a bad rap! As an evolving perfectionist I know firsthand the benefits in the pursuit of perfection as well as the real risk of not appreciating the scenery because you're so fixated on one ideal spot. There is a distinct difference between obsessing about details and an authentic commitment to quality. You invest so much time in "work" whether for your own business or your employer's, of course you want to feel proud of what you produce. Well getting to that place of pride takes effort. It would be like saying you don't mind hitting the gym 3 hours, five days a week only to have to the same weight or physique. That would be ludicrous and pretending you don't want to be perfect at anything is just as silly. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to find the plus side of perfection by redefining what perfection means for you.
Think of something in your life that you love and strive to be an expert in. This is very often your career, favorite hobby, or unique talent or gift you have. It my also be a significant role you play as a partner, partner or colleague. area of life you want to not only want improve. Based on where you are now what would make this week perfect in that area for you? For example, what would perfection look like for you as you build your career? One of my favorite inspirations is Shaun T, even as a top fitness expert he is always define what perfection means to him, and as a result pushing his business and his body further.
Let's look at an area I'm working on - being a great mother. What makes a perfect mother? Well when I ask my son he wants a mother is supportive, compassionate, loving and kind. The great thing is these same qualities will help me become an even better coach. The pursuit of perfection has its benefits.
When you work to perfect your thinking, your words or your craft you inevitably invest in designing you. Even if the bar is obscurely set beyond reach the journey nonetheless can make you a better pilot navigating through your beautiful life. So for which are of life are you redefining perfection - money, relationships, career? Leave a post and share your path to perfection.
One of my favorite songs is Sade's Babyfather, especially the line "For you he's the best he can be." So often we forget this is true for each of us. We are human and every so often come up short in the eyes of others, but the love, compassion, and strength the men in our lives share deserves thanks and praise. Your own "babyfather" may be the father of your children as the song implies, or in this space he may be your husband, partner, friend, mentor or any man in your life who sees your light. In this week's Sun-day design celebrate your babyfather by reminding him of all the ways he is heard, valued and loved.
This father's day show at least one special man in your life the many ways you hear and understand his dreams, goals, and desires. Listen and share in the excitement he holds for this year and the future. Don't offer your ideas or plan out his next steps, simply be a present. Your celebration should also demonstrate how much your father figure is valued. Give him something that shows your appreciation for the contributions he makes in your life. The best way to show him what you value is to give him the very thing you gives you. If you value his hugs - tell him and give him the best hug that you know how. If you value his mind and artistry, write him a song or poem. See him just you want him to seen - in truth.
The most important part of celebrating your babyfather is shower him with love in a way that he feels loved and cherished. In other words it's important for you to show love for him in his love language. This can be a challenge because you often want to give love in a way that you like to receive it. The book the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman was given to me by a great friend and is a treasure in helping you learn how to love in a way it can be fully received. The act of taking time to show your babyfather that you appreciate the best he can be is a wonderful gift beyond measure.
Father's Day is a wonderful time to honor all the men in and around your life who give their best. Leave a comment and share how you will celebrate your babyfather on this special day.
Imagine a career that's bigger, better and richer than the one you're in right now. A career where you are appreciated, well compensated, learn, grow and have fun with the people you work with. The type of career people read about in Forbes magazine and often wonder why not you. Truth is it can be you, the key is to define success beyond any single job or career path. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to create your career bucket list. Build your career dream that infuses the full range of your talents, strengths, interests and capabilities.
First, write your very own career wish list. Capture everything you want to do, see and experience over your lifetime. Here are few ideas to jump start your thinking - write a book about your life story, build your own company, teach women's wellness classes, accept a job overseas where you have to learn a new language, be sure to also include the philanthropic work you want to do, your global impact and reach. List at least 10 different careers. My own top 5 are entrepreneur, dancer, executive, author, and life coach - of course! Other ideas to consider - pilot, athlete, orator, painter, doctor, lawyer, talent agent, singer, chef, masseuse...I can go on. Share your list with some friends. They can offer great insights as to career and/or contributions you can give to people in the world.
Now for each experience you have listed, pick the one that you just have to do. The one you want the world to still talk about when you're no longer here. Okay, got it. Next, think of one thing you can do toward that goal this year. If it's writing your book commit to an outline or the first three chapters. Last step is to do it this week! Yikes, say what?? Yes, you can write those chapters this week, it's been stirrings in your head and heart for years. Want to go global, well there are global centers, programs and outreach in every major U.S. City. If that's not feasible the global community is online too. One small step on the career journey you love is achievable in the span of one week. You are ready, start that kick starter or go fund me project. Leave a comment and share your career bucket list story too.
Have you ever done or said something that was completely out of character for you? I'm not referring to behavioral side effects from some medication, I'm talking about moments when you take a big bold bodacious step out of your itty bitty square box. The funny thing is it's precisely those moments when you step out of that little box you created do you feel free - released of fear, anxiety and judgment, even if for a brief moment. You feel it. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to spend one day acting out of character. For just 24 hours practice living, saying and doing things that express yourself in ways you've only thought about.
Even as you claim to be forthcoming and transparent it's inevitable that the inner critic in your head will talk you down off the ledge of courage. To build your reservoir practice saying and doing things out of character. Spend the whole day playing with your kids, show your partner what you desire in your relationship, tell the truth to yourself and your loved ones of our course with love and care. Trust the process of acting out of character builds your self-confidence and self-trust which inevitably leads to a more meaningful relationship with you and others. One filled with understanding, compassion and support.
Last week I lovingly told my son I would not purchase summer clothes for him. This is completely out of character for me as I long held this theory is that when it's about me son "I'll find be money". Look, I'm all for manifesting magic and yes the resources do come, but as I thought about it, I considered ways he can allocate money earned from his summer job to updating his wardrobe. My acting out of character actually empowers him. He can manifest the money from his summer job and further his dreams too. Be sure to leave a comment and share ways you also commit to acting out of character this week.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.