I led 2015 with one primary mission - growth. With such clear intention and focus I set forth rigorous plans to grow my personal and professional life. I celebrated a milestone birthday that way I wanted, I grew my work team and enjoy the people I partner with every day, I pursued (and am still working on) my next level of coaching skills and mastery, and I have expanded my practice which in doing so compelled to cancel the forthcoming Design Your Year Event. Similar to landscaping a garden, I realized planting too many seeds doesn't leave enough room for the roots to grow and deepen which can inadvertently affect the health of the entire garden. I am now in a place where I am plucking some flowers, tending to the roots to what's essential and watering the designs that can blossom most beautifully.
I've spent the end of 2015 cleaning home for the New Year, a tradition held by many, and in doing so I've kicked off 2016 purging things, people, thinking, beliefs and theories that no longer serve my life goals. That in itself is the gift in pursuing personal growth. You shine the light on everything and choose once again, what's most important to and for your life, your career, and the relationships you hold dear. This also means there are some new and immediate changes I am making for Design You Coaching. I will continue to provide individual coaching and shift my business toward professional and leadership development for entrepreneurs and small businesses who desire a creative culture that empowers employees as industry and business expert leaders.
I will continue to journal and share posts with new tools and resources for expanding your business and career. The biggest change will be searching on Design You Coaching for tools or stories that are most relevant to your purpose via the Design You Coaching website search and no longer receiving post in your inbox. I hope in sharing the changes I plan for my practice you too will see it's not about perfection or a single destination. It it about trying something new, revisiting a lesson not learned, and evolving more and more.
As you design your goals for 2016 I encourage you (and me) to be courageous in the face of fear, to be bold and stand alone when needed, to be vulnerable and open your heart to others, and to be ruthless in your pursuit of authentic happiness. Love and Life Lessons!
What do you tell yourself about yourself? How often do you pat yourself on the back for your strengths, experience and expertise, as opposed to draining your spirit focused on your flaws, mishaps and indiscretions. The words you use to describe yourself and others is one of the most powerful life shaping tools you can harness. In this final edition of Sun-day design for 2015 it's time to mind your words and chose your language as you would medicine to heal your life. Build your verbal and mental arsenal at the Design Your Year Event where the words you chose will infuse in your life with a renewed spirit and excitement for the year ahead.
If you truly believe the words you think and speak give birth to the reality you live, then decide to speak even more good into your world. Keep in mind that whether you choose what you say on purpose or by accident they nonetheless carry a huge weight in shaping the life you lead. Just as the words on a resume can impact your ability to be considered for a job or professional pursuit, the words you write, say and literally surround yourself with impact your level of happiness, peace, purpose, and prosperity. Describe your trials and a journey toward triumphant, talk about your life lessons as the journey to your new spiritual home. Talk about job you're leaving with appreciation for survival skills.
As you mind your words this month, think of the words or phrases you use most often that offers a glimpse into your moments of self-doubt or self-sabotage. Is it when you say "I can't", "I shouldn't", 'I don't deserve"? Or "It's just not in the stars for me", "I really want to I just don't have the time", or my favorite "It's not worthy it anyone..." If you use any of these phrases even once this week it's time to rewrite your self talk script! So for the next seven days I want you to tell yourself one thing you're great at, one example of how you've made an impact in the world, one desire you can manifest in the coming year. Speak light, fun, excitement, strength and pride, say it until it's so.
Welcome to a special edition of Sun-day Design! I am so excited to share with you early access to the next Design Your Year Event event on Sunday, January 17, 2016, 2-6pm. In this unique coaching engagement you will experience life designing tools ranging from the spiritual to the every day practical to the show me data scientific. Whatever your style, preferences or desires you will gain tools to get clear on which goals matter most in 2016, sustain the energy you need to pursue your dreams past the New Year's slump, and clear out the baggage and bad habits that keep you from being the person you want to be. What's special about this event is real talk and real tools for real people. Join other smart, proactive, ambitious people who are ready to attract more in their lives. This year's event will help you recharge your career and work-life so that you can create more love, joy, and success in the areas of your life that matter most. Use the COUPON CODE: DesignWithFriends tor receive 10% off when you buy two or more tickets. Click here to secure your seat and a bonus holiday gift now.
Last year's participants experienced new love, new businesses, improved their financial standing and identified the areas of their life where they are still feeling drained and stuck. In case you're wondering here is what a few people shared they loved most:
Tanea inspires me to take control and lead my life.
Tanea helps me fulfilling my greatest potential.
This event help me open myself up and call my dreams into my life.
I could see things in my life that require immediate attention.
Let's create new possibilities in your world too!
When you end a relationship with someone even when you wanted to end and did so on your terms, there is still a small part of you that is broken by the the very breakup you initiated. Severing ties with a partner, a friend, a home, or even a job behind can leave you feeling sad about the decision, nervous about what lays ahead because it can be worse than what you departed with, and sense of void because a part of you is gone.
In this edition of Sunday design I want you to actually plan your breakup to breakdown (in order) to breakthrough. Let's begin with where to breakup. What person or thing in your life do you need to step away from? If it's your job, for example, what is your plan to exit while maintaining a good rapport with your soon to be ex-coworkers. If you're planning to breakup a relationship, how will you maintain your personal integrity during heating conversation where each party is speaking from a place of pain and not power. Take 10 minutes and literally write a script for how those conversations will transpire.
Next I want you to prepare for your breakdown. I know you're strong and clear about why you want this breakup, however, you may have a moment of weakness where you convince yourself everything is not as bad as you thought and maybe you should stay put or go back. In those moments of stress and doubt you must have your fortifying tools ready at hand. Think about what will trigger you to go back to the very thing, place or relationship you decided to leave. For example, if you're deciding to leave your job or change your career, will your bank statement cause you to panic for lack of funds? You can prepare for that breakdown by mapping out secondary income sources. If you're preparing for the breakdown you may have after ending a relationship ready your resources for comfort from other people, take up a new hobby to meet someone else, or cherish the time you have with yourself.
The last phase is having faith that when you commit to the breakup and navigate your potential breakdown you will ultimately have a breakthrough. In this step you are reaffirmed that the breakup was indeed the best thing and you can name the lessons you learned. This may not seem like an actionable step, however, naming and claiming the ways in which you have been transformed by the breakup will help you replicate that freedom and power in other key area of your life. Clear out your house and get ready for the next Design Your Year event. More information coming soon...
I often say my son saved my life. I was born into this world focused on my academic and professional career, even as a child I was leading teams, championing women's rights on the playground and unafraid to share my voice that true to form went against the grain. I knew I was ready to change to world, what I didn't know was there are people who are here to change me and shape my life. That fire inside that's ready to protest for the right cause works in the professional or political space, not so much in the areas of relationships and love. As much as I gave my son life he gave me life too. To this day he is still the one who disrupts my world, my heart and my thinking working real magic that saves me from letting myself in my own fiery spirit.
While I have friends and mentors that serve the role of the unabashed disruptors in my life, what's really interesting is that I also have people whom I would not call friend or enemy per se, but who nonetheless grate on my nerves because they push me out of my comfort zone. In this edition of Sun-day Design I want you to find the people who will save you from yourself and push you on your path.
You like everyone else on this planet, get stuck in our own life story, naming all the reasons you didn't get that job, that home, that date, was because of someone else. In your mind you believe you have done everything in our power to achieve your goals and then work to convince yourself that any action you didn't take toward achieving that goal wasn't really important or something else mattered more. A great example is dieting. How often do you set a target weight or physical goal only to have "something else" come up and derail your plan? Longer work hours, no access to a convenient gym, not having a personal trainer, or not enough money to buy healthy organic foods are top reason for slacking on your dream body. Well it's not likely you will be able to shake yourself out of that self-sabotage thinking pattern, and this is the the time you need a hero. The irony is your savior may not be your ally or friend.
That person who comments about your ill fitted clothes, or asks you directly if you've gained weight will generate new thoughts and feelings inside, which is exactly what you need right now. Whether that person's words intentionally or unintentionally hurt you, the spark in your mind goes off and you're more likely to do something about it. This also plays out in your professional career. It's the person that asks you how long have you been in your role and why you haven't been promoted. It can also be that person who has nothing but strong words of criticism about the work you were proud of. That tinge of angst is a gift for you to look inside and see ways that person may be right. This person, is not a friend or an an enemy, (s)he is your disruptor here to call you to action. Be grateful and forgive their delivery method.
Now open your heart, disrupt your thinking, rewrite your story and claim your dreams.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.