Some people have a knack for finding the path of least resistance where many others feel their life is constantly bombarded with challenges, obstacles, convoluted roads and energy sucking hitchhikers. Have you asked yourself why is that the same roads often feel bumpy? Why can other people be on the same or similar road and have a completely different experience? To answer these questions think about what steps have you taken to clear the path other than painstakingly attempting to remove each piece of debris by your own hand? For this month's Sun-day design it's time to reroute your GPS on the roads that are immersed with baggage and worries, and begin creating and choosing an easy path. By now means am I suggesting you drop everything and walk away from your responsibilities. I'm am suggesting you look for or design an easier path to your challenges. One way is by not focusing or pouring all your energy and resources into battling those perceived obstacles. Get creative, jump over instead of busting through. The easy path may be the one you're on. You can walk that path with greater comfort and ease when you stop picking up the debris or holding on to past. Let the anger go. Another way to walk an easier path is to shift your focus from the potential danger that may be a hundred miles ahead, and focus on what is working right now. This future-focus trap tends to also be my own Achilles heel. The good news is life present me - and you - with lots of opportunities to practice. Now back in school pursuing the next level of coaching certification I am reminded to stay focused on the present, and not create my own vortex of anxiety by paying to much attention to all the good and derailing possibilities in the future. I trust that if I stay present, living in the moment while still glancing for alignment toward the future I'll actually enjoy the path I'm on and gain more from this journey than I could have imagine. What are the easy paths you can choose to create in your life starting today?
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This coming Fall will mark two years that I have brought you Sun-day designs. As my own life and career transforms, my company and coaching practice evolves too. In the past year I've taken on a bigger role at work, I am pursuing the next level of coaching certification, supporting my son's college pursuits and creating time and space for love and living. Yes living. I have decided that I crave more learning, more experience, more fun. I am diving into the dreams I created at the Design Your Year Event with even more fervor. To accomplish my personal goal of living more fully as a coach, as a mom and as a loving partner I have to shift some priorities in my life. I have committed to infusing your inbox with positive energy and the way in which that happens will change starting right now. Sun-day designs will shift from weekly to the first Sun-day of the month posts to ensure you have the best and most heartfelt content and life design tools, as I add the role of student back to my docket. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to consider what change do you crave in your life. What areas of your life are on auto-pilot, where you're just OKAY, things are sustainable bit not fully thriving in exciting and enriching ways? You're taking the steps, going the motions, you see the results on some level but your heart is just not in it. Or maybe you love the key ares of your life, but can bigger and better in one target area if you simply recalibrate your approach in the others. Instead of journaling or reflecting this question on your own I want you to find a friend to explore this question with more deeply. When you ask your friend the question "what change do you crave in your life" be a mirror as that person shares his/her answer(s). Repeat the list of changes the other person is craving and for each comment, ask "if that change doesn't come now what will happen to you?" If the answer to the second question is nothing will happen, then it's not a change that they deeply desired, and it's your job as a friend is to push them further. Help them find the change that will have the greatest impact. Now switch roles, your friend will now help you dive into the depths of your heart. You will know you're on track because the change you crave will be charged with a clear sense of urgency. Shifting to monthly Sun-day design posts will allow me to pour that love into other Design You Coaching experiences and events. More information on that golden nugget coming soon... When you think about your life, the people and experiences you've, had how many do you credit as part of your own doing? How many of these people or events seemingly came into your life without desire or invitation? What choice do you have in your job, your kids, where you live, or even what's in your heart. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to think about what do you really choose and draw into your life and consider what would happen if you believe you choose everything? Think of the power you would feel right now if you really believed that everything and everyone in your life serves a key role in your personal growth and expansion. For example, on some level did you choose an emotionally unavailable partner because your spirit knew these type of relationships would make you more aware emotionally and receptive to love? When you think about choosing your partner, you know that is a active choice you make. You also make passive choices, simply by not choosing. Even the act of avoidance; disregard or denial are still acts of choice. Belaboring over a decision is a choice to sit in the angst or pain a little longer. This delay may serve a greater purpose and may be a necessary part of your transformation. By choice or not, the pain promotes your expansion. Holding a framework of choice does not detract from preordained destiny, unfortunate circumstances or direct authorship in writing your life story. Choice gives you the gears to fly your plane no matter the terrain outside. Look at your own life. Accept as fact that you chose your job. Since you chose and the people you meet there everyday, how would you interact with your colleagues in a space of appreciation because for all the good or all the bad they represent in your eyes they are here to help you grow. The same is true for relationships. Do you chose your lover or friend throughout time and space or appreciate your paths crossing if but for a season? There's no right or wrong answer. Your belief is yours to choose. Leave a comment and share what you're actively choosing for your life today. Last week one of my best friends showed me exactly why she is one of the loves of my life. I'm not talking about a romantic love, I'm referring to the thick and thin, we break up and make up people who, as the "kids" today say - get your life! These people may only be in your life for one season. You may not speak to them for months or even years but when you call they answer without a second thought. In this week's Sun-day design I want to know who's your top 5, the people who speak light and demonstrate truth, love, and compassion in your life. Quite honestly, even your BFF's or hang-out buddies may not make this list. Your top 5 list should include the people who inspire you in your career, the person whose marriage you admire and aspire to create in your own partnership, or the millionaire next door. That person who has mastery over his or her finances creating long-term wealth on a salary that's less than yours - how about that! Your top 5 may eventually include your frenemy, the last person who you would think would be in your corner and takes you off guard one day with an unanticipated kind word of encouragement. A new and profound relationship blossoms from there. When you think about your top 5, think about the people you know to call for inspiration and for guidance. You may not ask this person directly for help, you just simply find yourself navigating toward that person's presence because simply being in their space energizes and revitalizes you. The best test to identify your top 5 is to think of a passion or project you have in mind. One you haven't started yet. It may be a new business, a new relationships, a new fitness plan to get your body and mind back on track. Whatever that venture is, think of 5 people who can help you move that dream forward. Beyond making a financial contribution, think of the people who will tell you the truth about your idea and not just what you want to hear. Think of the person who will call you on your 85% effort that you're pretending is a full 100%. Or how about the person who is doing exactly what you see yourself doing, and you're just now on the come-up. These are the characteristics of the people who should be on your top 5. Your top 5 may include people you don't speak to often or someone you speak with every day. The person you don't enjoy being around but pushes you do show up in life better than you have may be one of your top 5 too. That person doesn't discount or take away from the other important people in your life. Some friends and family support and offer love in a meaningful way. Your top 5 will push you for more. Be sure to leave a comment and share your top 5 list too! |
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