There is no single word in the English language that fully encapsulates the meaning of dharma. The perspective of dharma I want you to seek this week is to realize your dharma or "right way of living". I'm not suggesting there is one right way of living for all, there a way of living your life that feels right to you.
This is the dharma you get to design, and figuring out the right way of living is just one part of the process. The second and most essential step is knowing what to do when your plan goes awry and that right way of living seems impossible to live up to. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to design your dharma by making sure your plan includes your Plan B.
How do you design your dharma? You know my answer: Dream. Discover. Design. Love your dream, be clear about your desire. Discover who you are in that dream and the traps you set up for yourself and design your plan around them. You have to your resiliency map at-hand. That's right! To maintain your dharma - your truth - you need to have a Plan B. Plan A is already posted on your vision board. It's in the list of goals you wrote out for the year a few weeks ago. Plan B is for the moments of stress, storms, distractions or your downright stubbornness that convinces you give in and give up. Plan B stands for Plan to B ON IT! Your plan B should be like the app on your phone ready at your fingertips.
Examine your dreams and goals and ask your self, are these the right aspirations for me? And if the answer is yes, take the next step to create that Plan B. What will you do when the path to your dream seems plagued with setbacks. Inspire others with your Plan B On It in the comments below.
I love my work in helping clients design their dreams! I've used techniques to help them get clear and feel alive creating vision boards to manifest their life goals and inspiring action for when the road ahead gets tough. I want to share this transformative experience with a community of "loving your life designers". Before the holiday season officially begins, give yourself the gift of designing your next year.
In this week's Sun-day design I invite you to join me for my annual Design Your Year event, taking place at the Affinia 50 in NYC. Seats are limited and I'm offering $10 off to the first five people to purchase tickets. Simply use the discount code: DESIGN2O15. If you would like to learn more about the Design Your Year event play the video below and visit the Design Your Year event page.
My birthday celebration culminated with my attending Oprah's The Life You Want Weekend. Of all the wonderful experiences I had one of the biggest gifts I left with was a reminder that you have to put in the work, spend the time, and your own mental, physical, and spiritual energy to achieve your dreams. This is a process none of us gets to skip over.
As I reflect on this year, building my business, expanding my career, being a mother, partner, and better friend, each situation takes some level of risk, an ounce of faith, and a huge dose of self-awareness. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to get clear on just what it is you're willing to risk in order to live out your dreams. What will it take for your to be about it and not just dream about it?
The first step is simple you have to clear up space. Like ordering a new piece of furniture you may have to get rid of what’s in the house to make sure your new additions fit in. This means you have to find at least the one thing or one person you’re wiling to release from your life. As much as you’ve loved that favorite thing it is no longer part of the vision you hold for your life. This may be a small risk to take if it’s a matter of reallocating your time or a huge risk if it means saying farewell to someone you love. It's a risk either way because you don’t know for certain what’s on the other side. Taking a risk requires faith, commitment, and self-assurance.
If I were to tell you the ratio of risk will reflect your percentage of reward, then how much would you be willing to put on the table? This year has required me to be brave, to take lots of risks and I’m happy to say I am reaping the benefits. How do I know, well - you're reading this blog is a reflection of the love, time, and energy I pour into my business and our connection is a reflection of that reward.
I spent the week in the Adirondacks with the hopes of reminding my son, his friend, and me to slow down our hectic lives and smell the roses. To unplug FB and plug into nature. On our last day there we woke up at 5 am to climb the highest mountain nearby and watch the sunrise. The hike at dawn was fun, focused, and fast-paced as our hearts and minds were set on reaching the top before sunrise.
No words can describe this miracle that we rarely see and take for granted everyday. The miracle I'm referring to is not just the sun rising, it's the climb itself. You may not appreciative the climbs in your life. As much as you're focused on realizing your dreams it's important to know your climb has purpose. That climb builds your strength and resiliency as the climb tends to be steep, meandering, and long.
In this week's Sun-day design I want you to appreciate the climb you take to watch the sun rise in your life. You can prepare for your climb in 3 simple steps.
Ready yourself for your next climb, all you need is a map, water bottle, and supportive friends close by.
Do you feel like no matter how much you try to change life stays the same? Your past doesn't have to dictate your future. The 20 times you've dieted before doesn't mean you're doomed to a stagnant scale this time around. The change you seek is within reach just let your imagination run wild on how to get there. If achieving your goals were as simple as creating an action plan then more of us would be living our dreams. You get stuck when life throws you a curve ball, when progress stalls and change doesn't happen in the blink of an eye, or when you realize you don't quite have the resourcefulness to move things forward.
Imagine yourself as CEO of Your Life, Inc., because that is EXACTLY who you are. Now that you recognize your role as CEO I want you to think of 3-5 things you want to achieve on this year's balance sheet. Your "balance sheet" will account for challenges and set backs you may experience all the while positioning you to come out on top. Feel free to revisit your dreams or vision board as a build your list.
Once you have your goals in mind, pick the one that you would pay someone else to have right now. That's the one you go for first. Now for that goal list 3 wild, insane, no way that can happen ways to pursue the goal. This is key to breaking down the boundaries you've created in your mind.
Here's an example:
Balance Sheet: Spend my next birthday in Sonoma, CA
Three out the box ideas to save money for that trip:
1. Put one whole paycheck aside and live on a college diet of Raman noodles
2. Sell my furniture and a few designer handbags that should cover air & hotel
3. Pick up a job babysitting on weekends to earn some extra cash over the next 6 months
What do you think? Not really all that crazy huh? Exactly!! What you're pursing is possible it takes some creative thinking, true grit, and sacrifice. Go for scary and write your ideas down so you can debunk your own myth of what's impossible in your life. Live through your imagination and let it take you to new and exciting places. Be sure to share you zany ideas in pursuit of your goals too in the comments below.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.