Are You Kayaking Solo?

While kayaking on vacation I found myself unintentionally competing with another couple who took off canoeing just as I eneted the water. Before I knew it my competitive edge kicked in and I was rowing faster than everyone thrusting my kayak along as my sore muscles warned me I was pushing too hard. It wasn't until I passed the totally unaware couple did a celebrate my personal triumph. I won!! I beat two pairs of hands rowing with just my own. Then I realized, this is the freaking story of my life! And I'm not sure if I really won.

Crossing an imagined finish line solo on a difficult task when we should really be relishing in the experience or asking for guidance and support is pretty true for most of us. I just know there is some area in your life where you've unconsciously determined success means doing it on your own. We'Il it's time you take a break from kayaking solo too. This week the lesson is about letting go and giving others the space to support your lead. This week's Sun-day design is to ask for help.  

As you consider an area in your life where you're kayaking solo, embarking on a dilemma that you secretly cherish doing all own your own, think about how much further you would be if you allowed someone to help or show you the way. As a single mom I'm often going at things solo and for years would discard the efforts of my ex and his family when they offered their help. No more, I graciously accept their kindness. Even if you're married or dating letting go of the space in your life where you feel it's important to "win" is no easy feat! I know a lot of wives who feel winning means taking care of all aspects of raising the kids - arranging playmates, athletic teams, assuring high educational pursuits, I can go on...

This week I want you to find the area of your life where you feel you do all the work. Something you acutely take pride in where you get no help from family or friends. Now - just for this week - I want you to ask someone for help. It can be your spouse, the person you're dating, friend or foe, and ask that person to help move this area of your life forward. 

Here are a few ideas to help you get tarted:

• Money is tight, ask someone to treat you to dinner (you can always return the favor later)
• Fitness routine in a rut, ask a friend to take a new exercise class with you (as you're less likely to flake out)
• Weekends filled with chores, hire a housekeeper for a day (clears the clutter in your home and in your mind) 

Be vulnerable, take a risk. and ask for help. It's just for one week. You may find that you actually like it. Leave a comment below on what you're seeking help on this week.

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