As much as some people never apologize for anything others apologize for any mishap, even when the error is not their own. The people who apologize for nothing irritate those around them with their smug, entitled and rude behavior. While you don't want to be that person you also don't want to be the person who apologizes for everything. In this week's Sun-day design ask yourself are you really sorry before you offer an apology.
I'm not suggested you don't apologize for your indiscretions. I simply want you to notice how often you throw the phrase "I'm sorry" around, particularly in the workplace where language, stature, and position prevail. Over-apologizing can be just as detrimental to your confidence as it is to your personal brand. When you apologize for something you did not do or say, you take on accountability for someone's feelings for which you really have no bearing. For example, your manager is frustrated because she's unable to find some important documents. Do you say with "I'm sorry ..." or do you respond with "that's unfortunate". How about when someone barges into your office requesting information that you are not privy to? Do you apologize for not being able to give that person what he/she wants or do you simply remind them what information or materials you have responsibility over or access to.
Think of your favorite or most esteemed leader. Does that person apologize often? My guess is probably not. That doesn't mean powerful and influential people don't apologize for their mistakes. They are culpable and admit to any wrongdoing while focusing their language and dialogue on what's next, and in doing so they maintain their power, prowess and personal brand. For more reasons and tips for how to break your habit of over-apologizing visit my recent blog post on SpaFinder Wellness website.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.