A wonderful colleague shared some words of wisdom that I have to pass on to you. Some sage advice he learned from his own brother is that you can either be a victim or a victor. It's your choice. This came up in a discussion we were having about dealing with change in the workplace and how people struggle with claiming their power in what's happening to and around them. I want to remind you that no matter how dire the circumstances you have the strength and capacity to shape the impact of that experience on your life.
You can see your troubles as a burden or a blessing. As a lesson or your life's legacy. In this week's Sun-day design I want you to declare victory in whatever you're pursuing. Whether it's to lost 20 lb. or gain 20k in this moment claim your win. The biggest step you'll need to take is deciding it's yours. Declaring victory now takes the anxiety out of going after your goals because you know it will happen in a matter of time. Taking this position allows you to be present and focus on the work at hand which inevitably moves you toward your destination.
Everyone has an area of life they hope they can transform dramatically. For lots of women it's our body, if we can only fit into size X everything else will fall into place. For some families their bank account is like a money pit where all funds seem to disappear. For many of my clients it's figuring out their career passion, purpose and viability in going from a job they hate to one they love. Even as rich and successful as you are I know there is some dream, some goal that scares the bejeezus out of you.
Let me give you an example. In addition to my private coaching practice I work full time and face the same workplace drama many of you do. There are a number of people who are unhappy with our work environment, with their colleagues, and even more so with their boss. I totally agree with the many reasons they and I might gripe about things and at some point in time (usually after 10 minutes) I have to close the door on that conversation because it's like quicksand. If I sit in that state of mind too long, focusing on the negative it will cloud my path and detract from my goal of being a successful coach. So instead I cozy up to people who are realistic about the environment and like me still chose to declare victory in their lives over circumstance. We keep each other motivated, growing in courage, faith, and spiritual prosperity. For us it's a lesson that informs and expands our ability to shape our life's work and legacy.
This week I want you to do the same. Where in your life have you been playing the coy victim? Flip that script and decide to be a victor. Create a dream outcome for the situation your in right now and decide it's already done. The GPS destination is set and even if you hit traffic and a few detours trust you'll get there soon. Leave a comment below and share the challenges you're declaring victory in now. One dollar, one pound, one hug is a big win too!
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.