In a matter of just a few days this New Year has already been a time of growth and expansion. I’ve been called to actualize the words on my vision board – to be BRAVE in designing the woman I choose to be. I've had to brave in releasing some people in my life. It's easy to let go of people you have little or no relationship with. It takes courage to let go of people you love. My breaking up is less about them and more about the love I have for me. I have chosen to listen to my heart, go after the vision I hold for my life and be graceful in saying goodbye with love and care. Like your favorite childhood sweater there comes a time you have to recognize you've outgrown it and cherish the memory you have.
I've also spent time purging things in my home that no longer fit my life - old files, letters, clothes, remnants of life I've been working to transform. The last item on my breakup list is my bad habits - yea I've some of those I need to let go of. For some people their bad habits may be drinking too much, drugs, yelling, shutting down, cursing, or ignoring people in their life. Whatever yours may be, the key to breaking up with bad habits is to first acknowledge and own up to your bad behavior. Confess your bad habits to the people they've impacted. Once you do that focus on the behavior you want to demonstrate, the personality traits that you want to evolve.
As you begin the first month in this New Year I want you to design your own beautiful breakup with the things and/or people you need to release. Appreciate the gifts these people or things afforded you and design a beautiful breakup coming to a place of peace, resound in your purpose, and open to all life's possibilities.
Create peace around the end of those relationships (people or things) by listing the ways you’ve benefited from them, even ways in which you’re now motivated to stretch yourself in learning and doing more in your life. Recognize the relationship had a purpose in helping you become to the person you desire to be. Even if you’re discarding people or things that were hurtful, there’s always a lesson to be gained – so that you won’t repeat the behavior or find yourself being hurt again or your story can be a blessing to someone else hurt by similar circumstance. Lastly, as you release these people or things be open to the possibilities that arise, the one’s you consciously design with your goals and vision board as well as the ones that feel like mistakes or accidents that seemingly make a way for new and exciting adventures.
This is the work I do as I coach. To help you come to peace with the life experiences that block you, to help you find your purpose in the life lessons that knock louder and louder on your door calling for you to open up to the possibilities of everything YOU are and in your heart want to be. Of course, I have to live my work and navigate my life lessons too!
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.