Forgiveness

As we wrap up this month’s focus on self-love there’s one more topic to explore before we move on to next month’s theme on loving others, and that’s forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the act of letting go, choosing to release feelings of anger and resentment and making way for compassion and connection. Very often when we think about forgiveness we think of forgiving others, which is beyond a doubt important. Forgiving others frees up the space in your heart to love and receive love from others. It refuels your energy so you can focus on the things in life that empower as opposed to drain you.

Forgiving others is important in any partnership or relationship because despite your best effort you will inadvertently or even purposefully hurt others with your words or actions. The funny thing is you do the same thing to yourself! Think of all the things you do that hurts you too. What mistakes or transgressions have you made even since the beginning of the year? Maybe you haven’t fully committed to your goals, you’ve fallen short on your promises to others, or haven’t taken time to exercise, change your diet, or get more sleep. Whatever indiscretion you deem most hurtful, forgive yourself. Let go of the guilt, shame and anger toward yourself in exchange for learning, growth and expansion.

The first step in forgiving yourself is to acknowledge the mistake. Pretty difficult to forgive yourself for something you deny or unaware of. The next step is to say it out loud to someone else. Yes, confession is a big part in gaining relief. It helps to remind you and others that you’re human, and in being human you’re beautifully imperfect. The third step is to commit to how you will behave or engage going forward. This may simply mean reengaging your vision and goals for this year or seeking help from others – friends, a mentor or even a life coach.

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