Fudge Your Fears

What are you afraid of? What would happen if you finally faced that fear? If that seems like a daunting task then I’ve got an easy answer for you. Whenever you’re apprehensive about taking action for fear of failure or fear of success resolve your angst by fudging your fear. Just think about it, just like fudge your fears seem savory, deliciously justifiable, and once it latches on it takes a good scrubbing to get off.

In this week’s Sun-day design I want you to take a lesson from fudge and appreciate the taste of fear for just one sweet moment. The key is to not overindulge. A little fudge is fun, a nice addition to an already sweet dish. I want you to view your fear in the same delectable way. Your fears are merely an added layer of caution and as with too much fudge, too much fear can cause you lots of grief and stomach pain.

A little fear and caution makes good sense - no one would suggest you walk down a dark alley oblivious to your surroundings. But terror for things big and small things alike call for closer examination. So first let’s start by naming your fears. Where do you shut down and avoid pursuing at all costs? You can figure out your most disabling fear - at least the more recent one, by asking yourself what’s the biggest goal or dream you hold and still don’t have. The answer is not about skill, or your personality, or your access to money or fame. What’s holding your back is your belief in what you feel you lack or don’t deserve. 

You can face your fear by savoring it like fudge. Indulge a taste or two then close the jar and put it away until next time. Find your sweet spot of fear, the right amount will mobilize and not paralyze you.  

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