How often do you tell someone the cold hard truth? Think about the frustration you hold even for the people you love and adore. If you find the mere sight or text from a person ignites feelings of annoyance, anger, or frustration it's time to have a real heart felt conversation. If you continue to bottle up that volcano of emotion, it will eventually blow causing you to say something you'll regret.
Speaking your truth does not mean you should be bossy or rude. It's about being honest with the reason behind your feeling, thoughts, and behavior. Taking off the mask and saying what you really feel instead of what you think you should say is freeing for both you and the other person. For example, the truth is you criticized your friend's outfit because you're unhappy with your own weight. Sharing your weight struggle from a place of power instead of cowardice can strengthen your relationship and get you support toward your goals which is what you really need. In this week's Sun-day design speak your truth and finally address that issue that's been filling your heart with angst.
To prepare for a truth filled conversation - even with yourself answer these five questions:
1. The person I'm most upset with is _________________.
2. I'm so upset with this person because ________________.
3. I know this person is being selfish because ________________.
4. If this person really cared for me (s)he would __________________.
5. This person can express a sincere apology by ______________.
Now replace "this person" with your own name so that you can get clear on why you're so upset within yourself. Keep the answers you inserted to the questions above and consider the real source of your anger, frustration or sadness.
1. The person I'm most upset with is ME.
2. I'm so upset with ME because ________________.
3. I know I'M being selfish because ________________.
4. If I loved me I would __________________.
5. I can express a sincere apology by ______________.
The truth is the thing that has you angry with another person is the very thing you're doing too. Resolving conflict with others means telling the truth about your own role in it. Showing the other person as well as yourself some love and compassion will go a long way in healing your heart and the relationship.
Remember, the Universe gives you…you.
The life we experience is designed to help us grow. My wish is that you learn from me as much as I learn from you. Share your life lessons and let's build together.